Thursday, December 22, 2011

Gospel-Centered Marriages ~ Part Two ~ FINALLY!

It has been forever since I have blogged.  Our children decided they would pass around viruses of all kinds for two months straight!  It was a little hard to find blogging time during that run of sickness.  But, I did want to share some more highlights from the conference.  One of the things I greatly appreciated was the fact that most of the speakers stressed just the day to day being in the Word of God.  There are suggestions and ideas to help families navigate through the courtship process, but the best preparation for courtship is to ground your son or daughter in the Bible.  Make sure they are hiding God's Word in their hearts.  If not, all the courtship do's and don'ts mean nothing because the foundation has not been properly laid.

It is only by being in God's Word that a husband and a wife know the correct order in a home…how a husband is to lead and a wife be the submissive helpmeet.  This, in itself, is a wonderful preparation for our children to enter into courtship and marriage.  And if you are like most families we met there, you will be the first generation in your family to navigate children through this thing called courtship. So, many of these waters are untested for us.  Another idea that was continually stressed was that courtship looks different for every family.  Yes, there are some main principles, but how you flesh those out among your own children will look different from the next persons.  In fact, it will most likely look different in your own family from one child to the next.

One of the main things I came away with was to make sure that my husband and I are continually praying about and with our children for their future spouses.  We have made it a practice since our first child was born to pray this way.  And now that my oldest daughter is fifteen, she too is praying almost daily for her future husband.  If a family bathes this most crucial time in prayer, I believe God will faithfully help you navigate through courtship with His leading.  

Next time, I hope to share some of the principles of courtship that were shared at the conference.  But, for those of you that are looking to go through this courtship process with your children, saturate yourselves and your children in the Word and prayer.  Then, trust God for the results.  He is faithful to provide all our needs.


Trisha said...

Oh, Jackie, it's so good to hear from you, friend! I hope you and your dear family have a very merry Christmas. Thank you for the reminder to consistently pray for our children's future spouses. Love to you!

Chelle said...

I love reading your post. Glad you are doing better.

Sarah said...

Oh dear, sorry to hear that you all have been ill Jackie! But glad to hear that you are now on the mend!

Merry Christmas to you all! :)

Cheesemakin' Mamma said...

So glad you are all feeling better.
This sounds like a wonderful conference. We would like to encourage courtship as well. I love what you said about just getting your children grounded in the Word and bathing them in prayer while we wait for that time of their lives to begin.

Merry Christmas to you all!

Stacie, A Firefighter's Wife said...

I love the principles of courtship. My hubby and I are not in agreement over it, so I'm not sure what it will look like for our family. I pray that God will make it clear.

Hope you all feel better for awhile! Two months is a long time to be sick.

Camille said...

What an encouraging post Jackie! We have prayed for our chidlren's future spouses as well...what a powerful thing to do! What a Great God we serve!

So sorry you have had illness in the family...never fun! :(

May the LORD bless you all now and throughout the coming year.

With Love,

The Adventures of a Simple Life said...

So glad to hear all is well now. Sicknesses can be hard when they are passed around the whole family! Thank our Lord He took care of you and it was nothing worse!

I am so bummed we didn't go to the conference, but I am glad you are sharing some thoughts you learned or were refreshed in.

Just a suggestion for your oldest, as she prays for her spouse, it might be neat if she started a journal to him (we plan to do this with ours). Letting him know how she prayed for him that specific night, how she is trying to keep herself pure for him, etc...

Thanks for the reminder to keep ourselves as parents in the Word and also our children. I so often teach them but, shamefully, neglect my personal study time.I appreciate your nudging us to do so!

Hope you had a blessed Christmas!

Blessings to you!

His bondservant said...


Absolutely love the idea of the journal…thanks for passing that on. What a wonderful present to give to her husband. How precious to have her children read later on too.