I wanted to share some insights given at the conference by Paul Washer. He spoke about the Principles of Courtship that I found extremely helpful. He encouraged us to copy his handout and pass it out as we would like. Since I cannot do that for all of you, I thought I would try to write them in installments, and put the scripture references under each and then you can decide if you would like to keep them for a reference or guide. I would also encourage each of you that can afford it, to buy the MP3 tapes of the conference. We still have not listened to all of ours yet, but I am looking forward to doing so the beginning of the new year. I hope to be sharing some of my goals for the coming year with you soon as well. May you have a blessed New Year with Christ at the center of all you do!
Biblical Courtship by Paul Washer
Plowing Fertile Ground for Teaching: Before we even begin to discuss courtship, we must be aware of our present reality as people, convinced that the entirety of our lives are to abound to the glory of God, and determined to live biblically:
I. We must be aware of our present reality as people.
Judges 17:6, Hosea 4:6, Isaiah 1:4-6
II. We must be convinced that the entirety of our lives must abound to the glory of God and be submitted to God's revealed will.
I Corinthians 10:31, II Corinthians 10:5, II Timothy 3: 16-17
The Context of Teaching: In the same way that knowing the will of God in a specific moment springs forth from a life style of renewing the mind in the Word of God (Romans 12:2), courtship springs forth from a life-long biblical relationship between parent and child.
I. Parents must strive to know the Scriptures.
Proverbs 29:18, Hosea 4:6
II. Parents must strive to live as biblical examples.
I Corinthians 4:15-17, I Corinthians 11:1, I Thessalonians 2:14, Matthew 23:2-3
III. Parents must strive to love, teach, and govern biblically. The godliness and Christ-likeness of the family is the most important goal of the godly man!
Genesis 18:19, Deuteronomy 6:5-9, Joshua 4: 5-7, Ephesians 6:4, I Timothy 3:4
IV. Children must be convinced of their parents' role.
A. The parents' role is ordained by God and is the "first law" governing man's relationship to man. Exodus 20:12
B. A deeper look from Ephesians 6:1-3.
1. Children, obey your parents - to obey, listen, harken to; of one who, on hearing a knock at the door, comes to listen who it is; the duty of a porter.
2. In the Lord - in the context of the Lord's authority
3. For this is right - righteous; observing divine law.
4. Honor your father and mother - to esteem them as valuable.
5. Which is the first commandment with a promise, so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth - a reference to a blessed life without fear of divine judgment.
C. Moving beyond obedience to honor: Leviticus 19:32
D. Divine Penalties: Jude 1:6, Deuteronomy 21:18-21
(There is quite a bit more, but for time and not to have the post too terribly long, I will share more later. I hope some of you who are pursuing this route will find this helpful. God bless!)